Okay, listen. I’m getting really sick and tired of people saying “new year, new me!”
You don’t need to be a brand new person or change who you are just because the calendar says 2020 instead of 2019.
I feel like there’s so much pressure to make big changes and finally step up and do things, and I’m sick of it. If you want to make big changes and step up, don’t wait for an arbitrary date on a calendar. Do it now.
Many resolutions don’t last for a reason. The lasting change has to be internal first, not external.
You don’t or can’t change anything.
You’re still the same person. Don’t wait until an arbitrary date. Stop waiting!
Find what aligns with you first, otherwise it won’t be able to bring about lasting change.
Why wait? Why not start chasing what you want now? WHY WAIT?
Think about who you used to be versus who you are now.
It’s okay to not like what you used to do. It’s okay to want new things. Just don’t wait until an arbitrary date to make things happen. Do that shit now, boo boo.
At a time when many people are making New Year resolutions, I encourage you to not do that. Bare with me.
I freaking hate New Year resolutions. Hate. Them. Why, you ask?
I hate them because they encourage people to embody the phrase: “New year, new me!” But bitch, you can’t just change who you are by declaring new habits and calling it good.
Nah nah, people. Now, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to add new habits or change how you do things, of course. But there is something wrong with wanting to change who you are by adding new habits after the first of the year and then being disappointed when they don’t work out so you feel like a failure.
Whew.
I know some people are successful with their New Year resolutions, but most aren’t. Am I right? I’m right.
I know 2020 will be a new year and a new decade, and hearing that makes people want to make big changes to make this their year, finally, truly, but that’s not really how life works, is it?
It’s fine to be really excited about a new year and decade or whatever. It’s fine to want to do new things or challenge yourself.
But I will argue to the death that it’s not fine to want to fundamentally change who you are by taking on new resolutions and then feel like a failure if or when they don’t come true just because it’s a new year.
Please don’t feel like you have to change who you are just because of a dumb calendar. Please don’t feel like you have to set huge goals or resolutions just because it’s a new calendar. Please don’t feel like you should want to change things about yourself and that there must be something wrong with you if you don’t.
No to all of that bullshit.
I am here to say new year, same witch, same bitch, same me. Yes, I have goals for myself and my business in the coming year. Yes, there are things I’d like to change in my life. But no, I’m not going to think of myself as a new person in order to feel validated and like I can finally make those changes.
No no, not today, Satan, not ever. Now go, please keep being the beautiful, wonderful, ever-evolving unicorn that you are.
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