If you don’t see what brings you joy in your life, figure out what that would be and create it. Be it, live it, do it.
Decide that it’s time for you to run your life instead of your ego to no longer let your ego run your life. Decide it over and over again. And then a few more times after that.
Don’t be afraid of being happy and making yourself happy. Happiness can’t and shouldn’t only come from other people. It’s all about you, baby boo!
You are in control of your life: the good, the bad, the ugly, the happy, the sad, the mad, everything. It all comes down to you. What do you want out of life? Honestly?
If nothing comes to mind, do some reflecting. Allow yourself to think about you, even or especially if it makes you feel scared or uncomfortable. Trust me. I’ve been there.
Prioritizing and choosing yourself is fucking scary and uncomfortable and tough. Make your ego speechless. Listen to your heart and soul.
For so long we’ve been taught to look for fulfillment elsewhere, in other people an external situations. The secret is that you don’t need any of that bullshit. None!
All you need is you, baby boo. You. That’s it. That’s your power. It all comes from you, but if you’ve never given yourself the chance or opportunity to listen to yourself, you won’t know what you do and don’t want, need, desire, deserve, require, lust after, etc.
Think about what makes you happy, what brings you joy, what you’d do every single day if you could and money wasn’t a worry.
Think about what you enjoyed when you were younger. What made you happy? What were you good at? It’s okay if it seems ridiculous or crazy or not realistic.
Get it out of your brain, heart and soul. Chances are that you’ve been ignoring or at the very least downplaying what you currently or used to like to do for a variety of reasons.
Maybe you needed to make money and couldn’t afford to find a “fun” or fulfilling job. Maybe you felt pressure to be in a certain field or company because of other people’s expectations of you. Maybe you never felt like you deserved to do something either as a hobby or a career that you really enjoyed because it didn’t seem like hard work or it didn’t check off certain boxes from your list.
Let those old and new expectations go. They do not define you anymore. You define you. That’s it.
Think about what lights you up. Really, truly think about it. It may take some time for something to come to find, and that’s perfectly normal an fine. You’re dismantling old habits that are deeply ingrained in your ego and even body. This is all going to take some time.
Maybe something will come to your mind, but then your ego steps in and says, “That’s stupid. That’s not practical. Why would you even think that? You’re an idiot. That can’t seriously be what actually makes you happy. Just shut up and let me keep running the show. I’ve got this.”
Does that sound familiar? That negative, defeatist self-talk is a good sign that you’re on the right path. Your ego wants to protect you, which is admirable, but the way that protection happens can often hurt you in the long run if you don’t check in with it from time to time.
Now that you have a list, whether it ‘s one thing or several, look at it. Really look at it and think about what it means for you. Think about how doing those things makes you feel. Picture yourself really doing those things right now. How does that feel? Would you like to feel like that more?
Find ways to incorporate those activities and feelings into your life more, whether it’s once a day or once a month.
I want you to feel happier in your life. That’s my main goal in life. I want you to feel happier so that even if things are chaotic and messy and uncomfortable, you know you have a solid foundation to fall back on.
Life won’t always be happy, but it’s important to find ways to be content instead of intense waves of happy and sad over and over again. Find more ways to bring joy into your life. Being able to have that baseline of contentedness has been so important in my life.
Writing bring me joy, so I blog when I feel inspired. Reading brings me joy, so I go to the library and Barnes & Noble when I can.
Maybe you want to lead or teach. Paint your nails. Write a book. Watch a marathon of reality TV. The options are endless!
Every day you should check in with yourself and truly think about how you feel. Be honest with yourself. If you wish you felt a different way, think about what you can do to change your mindset instead of being upset with your current thoughts.
Your ego wants to protect you, but as a result, it doesn’t want you to change or grow. Overpower that if you feel like you’re ready for some changes. Then keep choosing yourself over your ego every day.
Basically, add more joy into your life, control what you can and leave the rest up to the universe or whatever you believe in.
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